In all of history, what is the most precious thing for woman? The answer is, naturally, man. What is the most precious thing for man? The conclusion, naturally, is woman. So, which is the most important being-you or your fiancée, your spouse? Your spouse. It’s an amazing conclusion. How many men and women exist with such a correct, precise understanding at this time on earth? This awareness is so precious that someone may demand that you must work very hard for 100 years before you can get a spouse with this understanding. Perhaps you had to work 1,000 years If someone gave you that condition, would you say, “Well, 100 years is too long.” Or would you work 100 or even a thousand years in order to get your mate? Would you do that?
Women are so precious, but all by themselves, they are useless. The only way for a woman to become valuable is to bring a man along with her, no matter how ugly or deformed or useless he seems. No matter how he looks, a man must be brought to you in order for your value to begin.
God is very tolerant, but let’s imagine we had a God with a very short temper. He never puts Up with anything for long. Suppose God looks down at men and women fighting so much. God knows the value of man and woman and that they are not supposed to fight, so what does God do? He removes all the women from the men and hides them. What would world of only men be like? Would the men all say, “Oh, now I feel better. We can finally have peace on earth. I can do perfectly well without that woman.” Do you think they would say that? What would happen? Men, at that point, would desperately pray, “Please God, send me a woman.” Probably the men would not ask for a beautiful woman like they do now, but would say, “Father, give me a woman, any woman. I don’t care if she’s black or Oriental-it really doesn’t matter, so long as she’s a woman. Even if she’s ugly or tiny, it doesn’t matter, Father. I can put her in my pocket or carry her on my back.”
How much do you think a man would cherish a woman after such a prayer? The same goes for women. If you had to buy your own mate by paying with one arm, would you hesitate? If there were no men to be had, you would jump at the chance, wouldn’t you? What if, after you give away one arm, somehow it wasn’t enough, and you had to give the other arm. Would you do that? You would! What about your legs? You would give up both of them because you still want a man. If you were really in that hard situation where you had to buy him or else you would not have him, then you probably would do it. In your opinion, is man that precious? If you had to give up your eye or your nose, would you still pay that price to buy a man? You probably would. That’s a very serious matter. You would do it because a man is that precious.
Have you ever regarded your husband as being that precious? Actually, that husband of yours should be enshrined and you should just worship him. We never touch precious things; we just look at them from afar. That’s how valuable your husband should be to you. There is no way of denying it. People take each other for granted because there are plenty of men and women, but we take many things for granted that we shouldn’t.
Reverend Sun Myung Moon
July 19, 1987