“To become a friend and someone who is loved, one has to understand the other person’s sorrow and pain and comfort them. Only then can one become the other person’s friend. If you connect to someone’s heart and build a relationship of love, then you can move that person as you wish, and you will also do as he wants.” – Reverend Sun Myung Moon
Since the time of our birth, we should have possessed eternal love centering on God. When we were born through our parents, we should have already represented the love of God. Moreover, centering on us as a couple, we should have represented the love of parents. We should have also built a relationship of love with all things.
Because we could not become such people, men owe a debt of eternal life to God, and we owe the debt of life to our parents. We owe the debt of love to couples, and we owe the debt of karma to the creation.
After God created the universe and all things, the reason He elevated Adam and Eve to be the center of all things was to give eternal responsibility to men. Consequently, we bear the responsibility to give eternal love. In other words, because Adam and Eve did not follow the will of God and were dragged into the bosom of Satan, the debt for the life centering on the eternal love of God remains unpaid in each of us today.
Moreover, after we have been born through our parents, we owe a debt to them because they have loved and taken care of us in their lives. We also owe a debt for the love of God, which must be paid back by living the life of a couple. To all things, we owe a debt for the love that nature has given to us. When you reflect on this, you must understand that we today owe a debt to God for eternal love, to our parents for life, to our couples for the love centering on life, and to all things we owe the debt of the relationship of love which we have incurred in our daily life.
As the center of the creation, you must be able to display dignity. You must realize that men owe eternal debt to God, the debt of their lives to their parents, the debt of love to couples, and the debt of life to the creation. The creation demands that men pay back all of this debt.
Let us Become People Who Pay Back our Debts
Reverend Sun Myung Moon
June 10, 1956
“Peace carries the meaning of becoming horizontal and harmonizing. It cannot be accomplished alone. Subject partner and object partner can experience joy and happiness when the vertical relationship is in unison with the horizontal relationship. Everything must be complete and satisfactory. Only then can we call that peace. Peace itself is insufficient. An ideal must show spherical motion, not just stay within a horizontal dimension. It should have a three-dimensional nature. When we call someone an ideal person, he must have an ideology for the future. In other words, that person is not living just a two-dimensional life in reality, but, having a certain ideal, his life has a three-dimensional quality. An ideal cannot operate merely in a horizontal plane.” – Reverend Sun Myung Moon
People are always contemplating doing something and are always seeking after something. The important thing is what they are looking for, what kind of dream they hope to fulfill. Men and women have dreams, as does a family, nation and even the whole world. On a wider level, the invisible world of spirit is also pursuing a dream. There is some entity which created all the universe and that entity must have had a dream or a reason for creating everything.
If you are living in the midst of a family and society that have a chaotic or confused situation, you feel dizzy, as though you were twisting back and forth, first one direction then another, without control. You want to be turning steadily in one direction, with order and joy. When you relate to some object for a certain purpose then automatically you have a common center between you. The actions of winding and unwinding both have a relationship to the axis. If you are turning first one way and then another, but you are accomplishing something by doing so, then you feel good. Even your eyes want to have a purpose for looking out, not just stare aimlessly or move independently of each other. When a person’s two eyes are looking steadily at something, you know he has a purpose in mind.
People often think dreams are phantom things without order or direction, but that is not the kind of dream we are seeking. Our dream has direction, purpose and discipline. It is a high, noble dream. Suppose there was such a thing as a company that manufactured and sold dreams. What would be the highest-quality, most expensive dream? Maybe women would consider the dream of beauty to be the highest quality; the dream would include beautiful clothes and a beautiful face. A man might have the dream of being a broad-shouldered athlete. A woman may have great beauty but if there is no purpose to her beauty, does it have meaning? Would anyone like to be a beautiful doll that stayed all day long in a glass box? No one could tolerate it. Real beauty is not just external appearance, like a doll’s, but requires active motion toward a goal, with a purpose.
Do women want to be beautiful in order to impress other women or to relate with other beautiful women? Why does a person have beauty as her dream? Beauty is not an end in itself. but a means to greater fulfillment. The goal of beauty is love. A beautiful woman is searching for a man who will love her. Beauty finds its consummation at the terminal of love.
Men want to be masculine and well-respected, but for what purpose? Suppose you wanted to become the strongest man in the world and you worked out every morning with weights. Once you became the champion, would that be the end? If a man won many boxing matches and finally became the world champion boxer, receiving cheers and a standing ovation from the crowd, how would he feel if some big, tall man came out and presented him with a bouquet of flowers to honor him? Wouldn’t he prefer instead to see a beautiful woman stepping forward to present him with the bouquet? You men, tell me, would he prefer getting an enormous bouquet with thousands of flowers from a big, burly man, or would he like a smaller bouquet given to him by a nice lady?
Beauty searches for its complement to find harmony. A man searches for a beautiful, feminine woman and a woman searches for a masculine man. When you see a strong man and a lovely woman together, you feel it is a beautiful sight because they complement each other.
Reverend Sun Myung Moon
From God’s point of view, the best thing to see and feel is a family centered on true love. A family where the parents and children are all centered on true love. When you feel love your hand automatically wants to reach out. You want to smell, your eyes become narrow. When you hug your lover, you usually close your eyes. That means that everything within you is satisfied, you don’t have to look anymore. You feel like floating and feel that you are the center of the universe and are spinning around. Usually these lovers jump together, whirling around. If that takes place, all your organs, even your heart all feel happy. So where is happiness? It comes when all organs feel satisfied with no room to move. Even if all the other senses come together, but the eyes squint and look elsewhere, it is no good. You need one focus point for all.
God And I
Reverend Sun Myung Moon
4th March, 1990
It was over
Before I realized
How much I miss
From love and the world
Then God visited me
In different forms
And tried to lead me
In different ways
As I was blind
Dead and mute
It took a long while
To see myself
As a son of His
Even now it is hard
That He loves me
I can be happy
By myself I know
It won’t be perfect
But I am not alone
Is watching over me